- Safety as a limiting principle
- Appreciation unlocks genius
- Upper Limit Problems
Conference Day 1
Powerful strategies for navigating marriage, family and other long-term relationships
"Relationships for life"
- Identifying your conflict story
- How your relational blueprint forms
- Transforming victim triangle relationship patterns
- Why objecting to difference leads to conflict
- How the Imago process gives couples a structure to move past problems toward empathy
- The single feature of a thriving couple
- How to choose whose career should take priority and when
- How to set boundaries as a couple
- Prioritizing home, work and family life
- How secure attachment predicts resiliency
- The four S's of attachment science
- Reflection as a legacy-changing tool
- Ways to strengthen an existing relationship
- How to start a new relationship on the right foot
- How to spot and manage red flags in a relationship
- Strategies for resolving conflict and creating harmony
- How to be in a long-term professional and personal partnership together
- Navigating racial and gender power dynamics in relationship
- Danger signs for relationships with small children
- The importance of secure functioning
- How to find time for your relationship around small children
- The most important factors that build resiliency in couples
- Signs of perinatal mood disorders and how to get help
- Guides for staying connected and managing conflict and stress
- The 4 attachment styles
- How positive visualisation can support healing attachment trauma
- The 3 pillars of healing attachment trauma
Conference Day 2
Dating apps, communication styles, compatibility and polyamory
"Dating and attraction"
- How traditional male and female roles have evolved
- Strategies to lower the stress caused by this evolution of roles
- Why women and men naturally react to stress in different ways
- How attachments formed in our childhood impact our adult relationships
- Why intensity in relationship is not intimacy
- What trauma bonding looks like and how to break the pattern
- What principle keeps love alive for decades
- Which small habit creates distance in relationship
- How a "5-minute sweaty conversation" can resolve any conflict
- Kevin's experiences of the polyamorous community as a Black man
- The issues around having a racial preference when dating
- The importance of inclusive spaces
- Identifying hurdles keeping you stuck in your dating process
- The unconscious mistakes women make when trying to attract a high-quality partner
- The importance of owning your authenticity to improve your dating results online and offline
- How our unconscious thinking patterns can prevent successful relationships
- Using breathwork to transcend these thinking patterns
- The 6 keys to a successful relationship
- Priorities for partnership
- The key to dating apps and social media
- The versatility of virtual dating
- Signs men don't feel safe expressing emotions
- Steps to hold space for big feelings
- The ways women communicate that push men away
- Understanding different relationship styles
- Having difficulties in your relationships doesn't make you a failure
- The importance of figuring out what ways of relating work for you
- How closing your 'ex files' helps open the door to 'the one'
- Why women keep sabotaging their love life, and how to change it
- How to become relationship-ready for the right partner
- Meeting needs when considering a partner
- Discomfort as information
- Recognizing when you're out of alignment
- Understanding what is consensual nonmonogamy
- How attachment shows up in nonmonogamy
- Using the HEARTS method to navigate attachment in nonmongamy
- The importance of individual personal development
- Polarity, energy and magnetic draw between sexes
- Online dating tips and traps
- How to stop committing too fast
- How to avoid emotional draining to foster closeness
- What is female sexual fluidity
Conference Day 3
Your guide to growing connection and intimacy
"Communication"
- The biology of connection
- The power of explicit guidelines for relating
- Why showing up however we feel is so important
- The danger of avoiding conflict
- Avoiding "the trap" during an argument
- Time out vs walking out leads to repair
- The main issues that arise in nonmonogamous relationships
- 4 core communication skills
- How to make strong agreements with one's partner(s)
- What the enneagram is
- How to use the lens of the enneagram for deeper intimacy
- Practical lessons for each enneatype in relationship
- The Wheel of Consent as a practice of giving and receiving
- Why it's important to practice giving and receiving
- How to practice and the positive impact personally and relationally
- Consent is not just about yes and no, it's about the freedom to choose
- Consent is not just about sex, it shows up in all areas of life
- We can always have more consent
- The importance of welcoming everything
- How to share your deepest experience
- The power of applied empathy
- Why our shadows can get in the way of intimacy
- What causes defensiveness
- How to cultivate true forgiveness and connection
- The practice of Aperture Awareness™
- Why learning to attune to your partner is so important
- How repair is different from accepting blame.
- The importance of taking responsibility
- How to work with our shadows
- The power of vulnerability in intimacy
- Why conflict in relationships is normal and how to manage it
- How to prevent escalating issues that arise
- Skills to listen and communicate when conflict arises
- How to use the five elements of Soulful Listening
- What is the impact of loneliness and isolation
- How to use the breath to come into the present
Conference Day 4
Techniques and tools that support your pleasure and health
"Sexual intimacy "
- How to have conversations about sexual needs and desires
- What turns people on and why
- How to learn what your partner wants in an experiential way
- What is sexual self-care
- Sex education culture and the limits to sexual wellbeing
- Reclaiming one's sexuality
- What is Erotic Wholeness
- Practical tips for connecting to your eroticism on your own
- Practical tips for erotic connection with your partner (with and without intercourse)
- The importance of talking about sexual health
- How pleasure can be part of a sexual health assessment
- How to handle sexual health and sexual needs over a lifetime
- Going beyond Sexual Mythology
- Moving through shame to foster connection
- Compromise beyond coersion and repression
- The relationship between desire and intimacy
- How to communicate your desires in relationship
- How to strengthen your No's and Yes's
- What causes low libido
- How to navigate different levels of sexual desire in relationship
- Why radical honesty is so important
- How desire changes throughout life
- The three types of sexual desire
- Physiological and situational factors impacting desire
- Why mainstream media depictions of kink can be harmful
- How to figure out which fantasies will work for you
- Practical tips for getting started
- Decolonising consensual nonmonogamy
- Understanding sexual preferences around kink/BDSM
- What is pleasure activism
Conference Day 5
Tools to create safety and foster connection within yourself and your relationships
"Emotional intimacy"
- How our triggers stop us being emotionally present
- The biology of our stress response
- How to use tapping to build deeper emotional connection
- How control impacts conflict
- Why the Inner Bonding process can provide relief immediately
- How self love transforms relationships
- What is emotional intimacy
- Why there is no such thing as positive or negative emotions
- How to express your emotions in relationship
- How to avoid getting trapped in narcissistic relationships
- Choosing healthy relationships consciously
- Why self-partnering is critical to a good relationship
- What is sacred union, and why does it matter?
- Working with polarity values to clear conflict & expand consciousness
- The power of psychedelics for going deeper in relationship
- How mental health can impact a relationship
- How to support someone struggling with a mental illness
- How to ask for support when you are struggling with a mental illness
- What the different types of betrayal are
- Why betrayal is normal
- How to recover from betrayal
- Mindful compassionate dialogue
- How to set healthy boundaries
- Relationship repair
- Where jealousy comes from
- How to manage jealousy when it arises in you
- How to respond to jealousy in a partner
- Roles women assume in codependent relationships
- How to stay in integrity with yourself
- Setting healthy boundaries
- Making the unconscious conscious
- How our family relationships influence our romantic partnerships
- The tools and techniques for breaking unhealthy relationship cycles
- How to identify our Mother Code
- How to bring the unconscious to the intentional
- What it means to continuously be co-creating our relationships through all life's transitions
- The types of changes that can occur in a relationship, including chosen milestones and other types
- A toolkit to navigate changes and transitions in relationships
- Knowing when and how to end a relationship if that feels right
Conference Day 6
Celebrating independence and strengthening one’s relationship with oneself
"Self-love"
- Why everything in life is relationships
- How moral development affects self-love
- Simple practices to cultivate self-love
- Understanding what self-love and self-care really are
- Practices to connect to your value and power
- Understanding the positive impact of self-love on others
- The connection between self-love and intimate love
- How posture affects self-love
- The power of vulnerability
- What is self-consent
- The positive impact of learning self-consent
- How to get started
- Why aloneness is so important
- How to overcome the fear of being alone
- Practical steps to work on your relationship with yourself
- What is "Radical Relating"
- What pulls us away from an authentic relationship with ourselves
- How to recognise core needs and break free from harmful stories
- Who is high risk for loneliness and social isolation
and the signs to seek help
- The role of technology in preventing or promoting disconnection
- Tools for coping with feelings of loneliness
- How coming from wholeness can transform a relationship
- Why going beyond our stories is so important
- Guided experience of the wholeness process
Conference Day 7
Understanding and navigating social and cultural expectations of relationships
"Relating in the world"
- The danger of weaponising our triggers
- What true maturity really is
- The power of grace in relationship
- What narcissism is
- How to recognise it in ourselves and others
- How to manage narcissists
- What asexuality and aromanticism is and isn't
- Debunking common myths and misconceptions
- Understanding sexuality as a spectrum
- What are object relations
- How to see our projections
- Practical steps to be free of past projections in the present
- The power of prayer for connection
- How to meet relationships from your deepest nature
- The vows of ego in relationship
- Why our relationship to money is so important
- How to talk about money to your loved ones
- Practical steps to better manage your money
- How cultural factors impact relationship
- The role of social privilege in dating
- How to foster intimacy when triggered
- How gender impacts all our relationships
- The harm in perpetuating gender roles
- The opportunities that open up if we let go of rigid gender roles
- What is intersectionality
- How intersectionality impacts relationships
- Race and ethnicity in relationships
- The need for easily digestible educational content around nonmonogamy
- How being autistic has impacted Leanne's experiences of polyamory
- Polyamory in the age of social media
- Jennie's own story of disability and intimacy
- The power of honest communication
- What the disabled community can teach the non-disabled about sex
Meet Your Hosts

Alex Howard
Alex Howard is the Founder of Conscious Life. He is also Chairman of The Optimum Health Clinic, one of the world’s leading integrative medicine clinics. With a team of 25 full time practitioners supporting thousands of patients in 50+ countries.
Alex is an immensely experienced psychology practitioner, having delivered more than 10,000 consultations. He has also led the Therapeutic Coaching practitioner programme since 2005, training the next generation of psychology practitioners. Since March 2020, Alex has been documenting his therapeutic work with real life patients via his In Therapy with Alex Howard YouTube series.
Alex has published research in the British Medical Journal Open and Psychology and Health. His books, Why me? My Journey from ME to Health and Happiness, and Decode Your Fatigue: A clinically proven 12-step plan to increase your energy, heal your body and transform your life, are published by Hay House.

Meagen Gibson
Meagen Gibson is the CEO of Conscious Life. Her career includes award-winning journalist, educator and entrepreneur. Meagen’s enthusiasm and energy for personal development led her to take the leadership role at Conscious Life.
Meagen is passionate about taking complex concepts and distilling them down to simple, accessible applications we can use to take action in our everyday lives.
Meagen is an experienced teacher, facilitator, and speaker on the subjects of journalism, entrepreneurship, film and video as well as improv.
Her previous television work in the U.S. includes The Voice and Who Do You Think You Are.
Most recently, Meagen co-created and directed the series, How I Created A Cult, for Conscious Life. The series is currently available on Amazon Prime and Apple TV in North America.

